I work with a bully.
An honest to goodness, I bet he may steal my lunch money tomorrow, BULLY.
And Friday, I was at the end of his bulliness. And I wasn't even there. Apparantly I was the topic of conversation. Why? Becuase my boss sent out an email complimenting me about a huge project I was working on and how well it went.
and in his typical bully insecurity, he went all bully on me - except I wasn't there on Friday. I got a phone call that he was talking smack about me. I thanked the friend who called me to tell me, but it hurt to hear.
THis bully completely discounted all my hard work. MONTHS of hard work. Months of 6, 7, 8, 9pm conference calls. Months of working on weekends. I have never asked for any credit. Never asked for anything. I just ask that you do your job and I do mine.
But he told someone that I have been "strolling around acting like Queen of the World" and pretending that this project was "all me".
The set-up was all me. The implementaiton was all me. But the execution of it - was a team effort. I never denied that. That's what I do. I set stuff up for other people to succeed off of.
And this bully (and I am not the only one he bullies) went and discounted it.
My boss says I should say something to him. Problem is? I don't like bullies. I don't know how to confornt them without being all emotional.
So, I'm just going to walk away from this and let him win. This one time.
He's young - actually my age - but hasn't been in the professional workforce very long. Prior to here, he worked somewehre for 3 or 4 months and before that, was a high school football coach. Not to discount coaches, but that's very different than the corporate world. VERY.
So if he does it again, I will confront him about that issue. THis one is dead to me. It has to be.
I hate to walk away from this, but I just can't confront him. Partly because I hate bullies. Partly because in a wierd way, I am scared of bullies...but mostly, I don't want him to know he got to me.
Who would have thunk that in my 30's, I'd be dealing with this?
Please think good thoughts that he doesn't push me down on the playground, steal my milk money and take the twinkie my mom packs me for lunch.
04 February 2008
I work with a bully.